Whereas discussing the discharge of his new ebook, former star of The Bachelor Colton Underwood revealed that he at one time questioned his sexuality after dealing with intense bullying about his determination to remain a virgin. Whereas Underwood owned his selection to remain abstinent because the “virgin Bachelor,” his confidence got here after numerous inner wrestle.
When Colton Underwood first appeared on Becca Kufrin’s season of The Bachelorette, he appeared like the standard all-American soccer participant. When he revealed to Becca that he was really a virgin, nonetheless, the confession grew to become the defining aspect of his persona. The present refused to let his virgin storyline go, even going as far as to have him asking Chris Harrison for recommendation ought to he make it to Fantasy Suites. When Colton was solid because the present’s lead, his virginity was the first matter of dialog. References to “the primary time” ran all through his season’s advertising and the ladies competing for his coronary heart continually made thinly veiled references to his sexual experiences. Even when Colton was sitting together with his remaining choose fortunately speaking about their relationship, Chris Harrison invaded their private life by blatantly asking if Colton was nonetheless a virgin. Whereas the query was impolite and invasive, it was nothing new to the Bachelor, who confronted bullying relating to his abstinence for a lot of his life.
In a latest interview with Folks, Colton opened up in regards to the bullying he confronted rising up. He wasn’t at all times the in-shape soccer star he’s immediately, and his chubbier look made him a goal all through his youthful years. He mentioned, “I used to be known as fatso, 4 eyes and 4 lips, as a result of I used to lick my lips, so I might continually have a crimson ring round them. I used to be just a little heavy, and that, mixed with being socially awkward, led to a very exhausting time. I didn’t imagine in myself. And I used to be tremendous insecure.” Whereas these feedback definitely affected Colton’s opinion of himself, the taunting grew to become much more private in highschool. Colton claims that his values and religion led to his determination to abstain from intercourse, however his highschool friends had a special interpretation of his virginity: They claimed that he was homosexual.
Whereas Colton tried to let the nasty rumors roll off his again, they did drive him to query his place on this planet. He described his response to the fixed accusations that he was homosexual, saying, “It was a type of issues the place you hear one thing so usually, you begin believing it. I assumed, possibly I’m homosexual. The captain of the soccer workforce must be having intercourse and consuming, proper? However I wasn’t.” Whereas questioning his sexuality, Colton would usually search the Web for indicators he was homosexual, principally as a result of he did not really feel that he may open up to his members of the family in regards to the fixed bullying. He mentioned, “I come from an athletic household, so it was at all times, ‘Transfer on, you’re good.’ In order that threw me off. In highschool, after I was battling my sexuality, I’m not going to speak to my dad and mom about it. So I internalized it.”
Whereas the rumors continued to have an effect on Colton, he mentioned that he discovered consolation in his first critical relationship with Olympic gymnast Aly Raisman. Though the insecurity did not depart him fully, falling in love with some cleared up a few of his personal self-doubt relating to his sexuality. Nevertheless, he needed to face the bullying and rumors as soon as once more when he signed up for The Bachelor, the place on-line trolls would accuse him of being homosexual. Now, nonetheless, the rumors do not hassle him as a lot. Why? As a result of he is aware of he desires to be with Cassie Randolph. He mentioned, “I lastly discovered any individual I actually simply wish to be with. I would like my life to be with Cassie. I do know who I’m. And that’s actually all that issues.”
Colton’s standing because the “virgin Bachelor” was nearly handled as a joke amongst Bachelor Nation. The concept that somebody may abstain from intercourse at 26-years-old appeared totally ridiculous, and other people had no downside making their opinions identified. Though Colton took all of it in stride throughout his season, he is now combating again towards the haters.
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